I didn't think much about genetic predispositions to gender roles before our daughter arrived. Now I believe. Having being schooled in biology, it makes sense. Afterall, we talk about male and female behaviours in animals all the time.
My daughter loves girl things. She carries a purse, loves wearing a dress and playing with dolls. I rarely carry a purse, only ocassionally wear dresses and never paint my fingernails. Even so, she gets in trouble at pre-school for colouring her fingernails with markers. We certainly don't push girl things on her but also try not to discourage her interests. In my view, feminine things are great as long as she doesn't think being feminine limits other interests or any intellectual pursuits. Because it doesn't, or at least doesn't have to right?
We were alone on Mother's Day because my husband is travelling for work and all our relatives live elsewhere. After we went out for an ice cream cone, went to the park and exhausted all the usual activities, I remembered that I used to do "natural manicures" all the time but abandoned them when she arrived because there never seemed to be enough time to do them when she wasn't around. Now that she has hit 3 and a half, I realized not only could she do it with me without spilling milk all over - but this is exactly the type of activity her capital X chromosones love.
So I warmed some milk and soapy water, pulled out the nail clippers, buffer, towels and moisturizing lotion and we got started.
Here's how to do a natural manicure and pedicure (according to this mom). I originally picked the basics up from a magazine but it has been a while and I've added some of my own steps.
- Place two small bowls of warm milk and one large bowl of warm soapy water on a towel on the floor.
- Soak your fingers and toes in the warm milk for a few minutes and then push back your cuticles (the milk makes it easier).
- Wash your hands and feet in the warm soapy wate. Dry them with a towel.
- Clip and file your nails.
- Buff your nails.
- Apply moisturizer to hands and feet. I like Aveda's hand relief and foot relief lotions (not a paid endorsement). They smell good and feel great.
- Optional - For extra shine, add a tiny bit of olive oil to each nail.
My daughter loved this. However, when we were done, she did ask "mommy, when are we going to paint our nails?"
Many manufacturers have removed toluene, formaldehyde and dibutyl phthalate from nail polishes to reduce health concerns and make them "greener". From a recent web search I see Zoya, a natural nail polish company is offering an exchange on old bottles of nail polish for a bottle of their less toxic polish until June 1, 2009. For details, visit their site.
I think we will stick to the natural, buffed nails here as long as we can.